Few lines for all youngsters, for their parents and also for those who are going to become a parent:
Your whole body is controlled by the level of hormone how much you need to control yourself. These all hormone levels are under the control of the hypothalamus. Your hypothalamus stimulates you in which types of secretion you need. All these needs depend upon you what are your interest, what your subconscious mind wants. When you do something of interest there is the formation of specific chemical packets inside your brain that force you to do more, again and again, the same things because they make you feel very happy. That’s why our minds always force us to get involved in the work of our interest.
These all chemical behaviour is under the hypothalamus. But this hypothalamus is also under the control of our thought processes, our emotions, information, stored data inside our brain. These all are controlled by a system called the limbic system.
This limbic system is tuned by you just like the setting of your mobile phone. Your phone shows what you saved in, how you tuned your mobile setting at initial and shows only when you want. In similar ways, your subconscious mind consists of data from birth to now. But these all are remains as in recycled bin because you once get the data but never revised again. That’s why these chemical packets get destroyed but their fingerprint remains in your bin. When you apply deep thought your mind search for those chemical packets and again starts forming these packets and hence your destroyed thoughts and mind data get restored because you once get interested in that.
Your mind always works how you tuned and all these tunes start working by birth and get activated along with the development of erogenous zones.
When a youngster falling into someone love their parents thinks he/she get diverted from their path but they never try to find the region behind this. In this condition not only your child is accused and responsible but you also equal partner for their unusual behaviour because when your child is under the age of 6 years, his/her conscious mind does not get satisfied with what is right and what is wrong and get stuck in that specific developmental stage. A parent always thinks he/she is wrong but never try to know the reason behind this, why is/she is showing this type of behaviour. Your child is not always wrong but sometimes you are more than him. In this situation, he/she is only trying to satisfy the desire that seeks pleasure because he/she gets fixated in the phallic stage of psychosocial development.
If a child is fixated in the phallic stage, their primary focus of the libido is on the genital and the thoughts of this satisfaction always wandering in their mind.
When they are once physically involved with their opposite-sex partner and after that their interest in love and affection goes down slowly because getting satisfied.
This incident happens with most of the children. You should clarify his/her doubt of the phallic stage. This is the only way to get out of this otherwise there is a 100% possibility that your child must get involved in love and affection.
But sometimes it’s not happening because some persons can control all hormonal action and fixated growth processes because of their control on their limbic system.
You should stay with your child until your child grows up to 6 years (atleast up to 3 years) because the male child gets satisfied with the Oedipus complex from their father and female children get satisfied with the Electra complex from their mother. But in most, cases penis envy is never fully resolved and that all girls remain fixated on the phallic stage. That’s why they want a male partner to satisfy his desire and most of the time there is possibility that girls show more attraction towards opposite sex than a boys. They want to resolved penis envy as soon as possible but because of this society they didn’t do that because in our society sex is taboo and this taboo word of society decides your nature how and what type of person you are. Just come out of this thoughts and mentality and try to understand why these all events are dominant in youngster. The most difficult and challenging time for youngsters are between puberty and their marriage. Youngsters fight at two stage in this situation , the first one for achieving their goal and the other is getting control of ver their body desire and parents know very well about this what are the challenges he/she is facing now then why they are blaming that you not doing good and making us shame. If you are focused about myself then continue it from the time of birth till the puberty and try to make satisfy Oedipus / electra complex of your child but what parents do they are busy in doing jobs and enjoying their married life. If you are enjoying then how could you tell your child not to do that during his/ her biological time. If you have feeling for enjoyment then why your children can’t.
Focus on your child development by birth but not only during puberty only when he/ she do something wrong. Your children are not always responsible for unusual behaviour but you also equal partner of him.
LOVE,BONDING HORMONE – OXYTOCIN HORMONE
Oxytocin is the bonding hormone, cuddle hormone and loving hormone.
When one person touches the other person of opposite sex like when you hug and kiss again and again especially when orgasm, there is big surge of oxytocin which acts in the CNS (central nervous system) of the neuron and develop emotional bonding between the human beings. That is why it is called bonding hormone.
Why womens are always complaining about their male partner that they are not loyal to their wife?
Do you think oxytocin hormone present in male body? What oxytocin doing in male body?
Yes oxytocin hormone is present in less amount for n male as compared to female. We thanks nature that men are with less oxytocin hormone and this will remain at higher level from 6 month to 2 years otherwise who will work for their family outside home living away from their wife it may be problematic. When you see a newly married couple they always want to remains with each other and stay almost for few days and get pregnant within 6 month after marriage or in some cases even before.
Why female thinks that my partner is not loyal?
Usually female releases more and more oxytocin as compared to male that’s why females are more strongly bonded to a man as compared to male partner. Since male releases less oxytocin, male partner bonded weakly and rift away easily their female partner. In this case women think why man are not loyal to their partner.
Female do not bonded quickly but once they bonded they remains bonded strongly. Thy take time and can attract others quickly.
Why early day of love is more and then decreases after passing few day after marriage? Which hormone is responsible for this?
What we called something love in beginning stage. In early days, partners may involved more in love and suddenly changing the whole things. This depends not on oxytocin but depends on Sodanine, Dopamine, and norepinephrin. They supress area of brain concerned with analysis and enhance the area concerned with emotion.
After the beginning of love, early phase of love dominates by dopamine, sodanine, and norepinephrine. But as the time passes, the purpose of these three hormones to keep male and female bonded for enough time until female gets pregnant and bear baby.
After getting pregnant, the male who cannot control himself want to be like early days of love and try to experience their love with other women but still he loves his wife because of the bonding between them due to oxytocin hormone.
Why nature planned that these three excitatory hormone surge goes down after sometimes?
Because in early love , sodanine, dopamine and norepinephrine is there, most of the partner focus on their relationship and so much focus on you beloved that many important things in your life are not doing or they are disrupted. But if you continue like that the life will disrupted.
This magical moment usually remains only for 6 month to 2 years depending upon the couple and then spell break and oxytocin come to hold partner together.
When oxytocin became high then a man can go outside and start working and woman can focus on the baby. In most of the couple, these happens only once or twice between a couple. But only 10% couple get a chance again and again. If most of the couple get this chance the human population will increase more and more rapidly.
Why most of the female always complaining that my husband is not loving, loyal and not giving me enough time as before pregnancy?
When female gets pregnant, the level of oxytocin is more in both partner. female partner remains engage in taking care of their developing child but what man do? where he spell their excitement of sex. You can only involved in romance with your female partner but cannot perform sex with her. At that time, man go outside and look after where they can get their spell again and again. At that situation what women do? In this situation every women complain with their husband that those are the days you love me much more and bring flowers and gifts for me but now-a-days you aren’t.
Summary of the whole blog is:
Passionate love depends on Dopamine, Sodamine, and norepinephrine. With the time, converted into affectionate love. Passion is finish between husband and wife and affection is develop and continue.
